Recognize 

 Recover 

 Reset 

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How To Take The First Step

Life moves fast and it's easy to get lost in a moment. Sometimes someone or something comes into people's lives that pushes them away from one of their needs. A need becomes threatened. When it happens the normal response is to fight or flight to protect it. It's the natural stress response and is also known as getting triggered.  It happens to everyone. It happens all the time. Recognizing,

Recovering, and Resetting is a helpful way to manage these moments.

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Recognize 

The first step humans can make to manage tough moments is to understand and respect their needs. They should be cared for because when they're missing they'll start to lose control. Recognizing when they are getting sad, mad, or frustrated is the first sign one is being threatened. Humans rarely if ever go into a fight or flight response because of nothing. It burns too many calories and too much work. They should trust themselves, respect their feelings, and feel good knowing they are doing the right thing. It's not rude. It's being a great human.

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Feelings are real. Haters want to say they aren't because if they believed them then they would be at risk at being held accountable. So it's easier to ignore them. The truth is different moments impact different emotions. This is what they look like in the body indicated by mapping the temperature of the human body in different emotional states. It's called the cartography of consciousness.

Recover

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Most needs can be recovered when they're lost or threatened. Yes, there are people who have been hurt so great they're not in a place to meet others' needs, however, this is not usually the case. Most humans innately know and have a level of empathy. When they see another person hurting they will want to help. Of course, their needs need to be respected too. The greatest challenge most humans face in difficult moments is knowing why they're frustrated. The real reason. More specifically the exact need being threatened. By asking "why" over and over it can help to lead to the source of the frustration. To move towards their needs.   

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Reset

Depending on the intensity of the moment being triggered can leave a human in stress response. They're left feeling drained, or empty, and sometimes still mad. Once their need is recovered they need to process the stress. So it's not carried into other parts of their lives.  There are many great ways proven to help humans process stress effectively. This is why it's important to decompress, reconnect, destress, and reset. 

Lasting past the moment and sometimes for years. Usually when a need is brokenThe fear of losing a need can cause intense stress. Sometimes lasting for a while.

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Moving Together

It's Like A Social Contract

Stressful moments can push people apart. They can push people away from the things in life they need. But here's what's different. When people commit to caring each others' needs conflict moves from a wedge that drives relationships apart to a way to better understand another human being in a way that they show you what they need and they give you an opportunity to be there for them. And they can be there for you. It's not pie in the sky thinking. It's not weak. It's the opposite. It's being confident in knowing what you need and respecting others' needs. It bringing two people closer together toward this thing we all desperately need, connections. Enjoying life together.